WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR EMOTIONAL COMPETENCE

Do you know how to deal with your frustrations? Can you work under pressure? Can you delay gratification? Do you follow through on your plans? Do you take responsibility for what you do or do you blame others if you fail? Do you give up when things get too hard, or do you follow through on the plans you have set?

“The ability to understand one self and others and to get along with people is vital for success in school, work and life.” Your College Experience: John N. Gardner and Betsy O. Barefoot

In improving your emotional competencies you’ll have to be honest with yourself. Being emotionally competent means having a holistic view of your reaction to different situations in your daily life, as you’ll become more aware of yourself and also be better at understanding others as well. Having a holistic view means to be aware of your personal competencies and your social competencies. That is, self and social awareness and self and relationship management.

When we understand who we are, we are better able to cope with life’s pressures and demands.

Being emotionally intelligent you’ll be able to recognize your emotions and their effects. Having that awareness means knowing your strengths and weaknesses, which will help with how you approach life in general. By knowing how to manage yourself you’ll eventually have a stronger sense of self-worth. Being emotionally competent on a social level allows you to be more empathetic with others as you’ll have some sense and awareness of their feelings, their needs and their concerns. An emotional intelligent person will be more inclined to give a more desirable response that will foster the development in others.

“Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business.” —Norman Vincent Peale

Remember in life things change. Can you adapt?

These are some practical ways that you can improve your emotional competence i.e. become emotionally intelligent:

Identify your strengths and weaknesses 

Make regular checks on your progress 

Pay attention to how you behave 

Respond to the current situations, rather than reacting to them  

Observe the feelings you are having 

View each situation with an open mind 

Empathize with yourself and others.....

Article adopted from one of my Inspirational writers who is my mentor...

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